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Question: Why do Americans hate forum shopping child custody?

Why do Americans hate forum shopping child custody when a women takes her US born child to her native country and prevents her from returning to the USA before her 18 birthday? Basically US law has noting to do with children’s rights only parents rights and treats children as personal property of there father and the only victim is the father for not getting what he wants. The mother gets what she wants. The child is happy living with her mother but is old enough to understand that there is a conflict of law.

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Answer by momof3boys
Whenever a child doesn’t get to know both parents the child can suffer too, watch reunion shows they are filled with children that grow up questioning why their parent(s) didn’t want them, why they weren’t around. I could list many children right now that wish they had a chance to know their fathers. So you can’t say the only victim is the father. The child may be happy at 3 or 4 years old but when that child turns 18 they start to wonder what they missed out on.

Answer by ♥GGM♥ Goo Goo G’Joob
Yeah, I still want to punch my computer.

Answer by Ana
When you consciously and willindly decide to bring a child into this world with an active partner falling out of love and wanting to move back to your own land is not an excuse to severe the ties between a father and his children. If a parent (man or woman) does not want to share the responsabilities and struggles of parenthood then consider the extra responsability of being a single parent. Otherwise, you pick the father/mother of your child and that is a bond you cannot ignore when it is no longer convinient to you.

How selfish and cruel can one be to pretend that the father is an unimportant victim? Would you be okay if it was a father taking away the child from his or her mother? Obviously you are not a parent, otherwise you would have the ability to at the very least show some consideration for a father whose child is taken away from him. Besides that, there is the decision that no parent can make on behalf of a child who has known and belongs to his or her father. I am all for single parenthood and root for anyone who, after considering all the options and much thought decides to parent alone. However, if you are married or in a long term relationship with the parent of your child it means a comitment to nourish and celebrate the bond between your child and his/her other parent. If a child knows and loves his/her father it is not up to the mother to decide when and how it is convinient to let them interact. If the father is involved, responsible and loving there is no reason why a child would agree to what the mother is doing.

I am not from the US, I was born and raised in Cuba and I would never consider taking off with my children if my relationship with their American born father fell apart. Even if I don’t love him any longer or even grow to hate him, my kids are half his and he is half of my children. I would not rob them of their father because it is suddenly convinient to me. Same thing for my husband’s ex wife. She was born and raised in France and when they divorced I am sure she would have loved to return to her country, but because she is a reasonable and dedicated mother she remained in the US, perhaps much to her chagrin because of the son she had with my husband, her ex.

I’m not saying that it is easy to divorce and share a child in a foreign land but if the other parent is willing and a positive part of the child’s life it is not as simple as taking off and making a decision that only the child can make and should not have to. Divorce and separation happens between grown adults, but children do not divorce or abandon their moms and dads.

Answer by happy new year
this isnt even close to articulate..what are you trying to convey?

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