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Q&A: How can I enforce healthy living habits on my grandson? +BQ? Please help?

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Q&A: How can I enforce healthy living habits on my grandson? +BQ? Please help?

I’ve recently visited my daughter’s family. I have been here two days (I am staying a week), and I find that Lyah (My daughter) is almost never home. She is usually out gambling or drinking in the next town over from four p.m. to two a.m. She lets her kids stay up very late at night and do whatever they want during the day. (She has three kids- eight year old twin girls Haylie and Zoey, and twelve year old boy Logan). I found out that they have fast food (McDonalds, Burger King, Chinese, Pizza, et cetera) five days a week, every week, for years now. The other two days they have microwavable macaroni and cheese, and barbecue. I was appalled when I found out their diet! Somehow Haylie and Zoey have managed to stay thin and healthy, but Logan is overweight (yet he plays a lot of sports, I’ll give him that). I have been trying to make healthy meals for them, but when Logan found out he wasn’t going to have fast food for dinner, he refused to eat what i cooked and instead went out with his friends and stuffed his face with Pizza. I tried telling them to go to bed at more reasonable times, but Logan refused to and yelled at me, saying, “Get the he** out of my frig**n life!” His sisters are having no problem adjusting, but he keeps yelling at me and storming out of the house. How can I enforce healthier living habits apon my grandson?
BQ: When I tried to get Lyah, my daughter, to stay home with her kids for once, she just said, “They can take care of themselves, Mom. I’m not always going to be here for them, you know.” How can I get her to stay home with her kids and cook meals that are healthy?

-Concerned Gramma
@Joe:
My husband died four years ago, and her husband is divorced.

Q&A:

Answer by Joe
You have failed miserably and you lack what it takes to scold that disgusting daughter. You need to find it within yourself somehow and start by telling her she’s a first class pig. Where is her husband, not that I really want know? And where is your husband? Where are the men in that family?

Those kids and your ridiculous daughter need to be scolded and probably paddled or otherwise beaten, with liberals being disallowed to interfere or say “don’t do it.”

I see some of the liberals have already come out from the woodwork to spew their nonsense. Don’t let them tell you “it’s not your business.” MAKE IT your business.

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Yes, I figured she was divorced. It goes with the territory of this hellish madness.

Answer by Devyn A.
He’s not your kid. If that is how your daughter wants to feed her children that is her business. It’s great you are cooking healthier meals, but you cannot FORCE your grandchild to live the way you want him to. That is up to his mother, and very soon it will be up to him as he is getting old enough to make his own decisions.

BQ: As awful as it is she isn’t there for her kids, once again they aren’t your kids and she is plenty old enough to make her own decisions. You cannot order her around either.

Answer by Proud Parent
It’s sounds like there pretty set in their ways. If Lyah isn’t going to stay home when her own mom is visiting for a week, she probably isn’t going to change that for her own children. Just keep trying to teach them to eat right for the rest of the Time your there. Good Luck.

Answer by gay white dude
you can always take custody of the children. Stage an intervention with friends and family and if she is never around and drinking and gambling all night that right there is grounds to call CPS (they take kids away for alot less) There is also the matter of their diet, bring it up in court

Answer by Violet
I’m sorry to hear this. It makes me sad. You have obviously traveled some distance and made time to visit your daughter, and she isn’t even spending time with you. If that happened to me, I’d be so hurt. If that’s how you feel, tell her.

You could point out to your daughter that while it’s true that she won’t always be there for them, it’s also true that they won’t always be around for her. Within a few short years, her oldest will be able to leave home. Those years are precious. Doesn’t she want to grab every moment?

It sounds like your daughter is either very self-centered or has an addiction to gambling, or both. Have you talked to her about it? If that’s what is going on, it will surely affect her children, and that may be even worse than their bad eating habits.

Your grandson is being a typical 12-year old who is probably angry with his parents for divorcing and “abandoning” him. He is confused and is taking it out on you.

I don’t see where there is much you can do to directly change what the kids eat. You can cook for them when you have a chance, but if you don’t live nearby, that’s not going to help much. You can talk to them about nutrition, but without their mother’s support, I doubt that they will be able to follow through. I think the best course of action is to work on your relationship with her and encourage her to take better care of them. Honestly, it sounds as if the whole family is having trouble connecting and bonding with each other. That’s a problem that may require counseling to resolve.

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